These are some of the effective technique of NLP that will help you change behaviour, get better results and attract more positive experiences:
People tend to react to something in a negative way which causes stress, depression or other negative emotions. First, identify what emotion you want to get rid of. Then, see yourself encountering the situation from start to finish, as an observer. Play the same mental movie backwards, then fast-forward it and then play it backwards. Repeat these steps several times, with funny music added to it. Now, picture the same event like it was happening to you now. You should have lesser of the initial response. If you still feel some kind of negative emotion, repeat this exercise until the negative emotion has completely disappeared.
2. Content Reframe
This is basically looking at the situation at a different angle when you are in a one which makes you feel hopeless, angry or other negative emotions. Thus, your focus is not on the negative aspects of the situation but the benefits of the situation. For example, you have just got fired from your job. Think that this is an opportunity for better positions and you will be able to explore different kinds of areas of work that will let you develop your other skills.
Anchoring is mainly used in NLP to elicit some kind of emotional response to something that you do or say. For example, it is possible for the person to start unconsciously smiling when you touch his/her shoulder. To do this, first identify the state you want the person to experience, be it happiness, courage or something else. Do whatever it takes for the person to get into such state. In that target state, touch him/her and hold the position for a few seconds. Remember the exact area that you’ve touched. Then take your hand off the other person and say something unrelated to take the person’s mind off the subject. Then, after a few minutes, touch exactly the same area again and monitor the response. If the process has been successful, the person should have the same emotional response as the one you wanted him/her to have.
Rapport is a very important and quite easy skill to master that enables you to get along with any kind of person. There are many ways to create rapport with people. You can follow the breathing patterns of a person, you can mirror his/her body language (not too obviously, of course) or you can use similar words that the other person uses. You can also assess the person’s main sensory perception, be it visual, kinaesthetic or auditory and then use the same perception yourself. You can do that by simply talking to the person and paying attention to what kind of words the person uses.
5. Belief Change If you had some negative experience and you dwelled on it, you would then start attracting more similar experiences that would reaffirm your rightness about the situation. In such situation, it is best to straight away do a content reframe and not focus on the negative aspects of the it. Another way is to spend five minutes a day affirming a completely different belief to your current one. You should give it your full attention without any distractions. Focus on your words and understand their true meanings